INTRODUCTION

Welcome! Matt and Trisha have brought us together here for an occasion of great joy and a cause for celebration. Having found each other, they have built the kind of relationship that will serve them well as the foundation for their marriage. They have chosen each one of you to be here with them to witness their wedding vows as they join together as husband and wife.

Marriage is a bold step into an unknown future. It is risking who we are for the sake of who we can be. In marriage, two lives are intimately shared; and the blending of the two must not diminish either one. Instead, the goal is that it will enhance the individuality of each partner.

We all know that a marriage is not created by a law or a ceremony, but that it is born in the hearts of two humans. And it grows through loving, caring, and sharing ourselves with the other. This ceremony is not magic or superstition, it will not create a relationship that does not already exist and has not already been celebrated in all the commitments Matt and Trisha have made to each other since they first met and recognized their connection to one another.

So, in witnessing this ceremony today, we are observing only an outward sign of an inward union that already exists between them. This ceremony is a symbol of how far they have come together and a symbol of the promise that they will make to each other to continue to live their lives together and to love each other solely and above all others.

I believe that it’s worth noting that love is distinct from “being in love” and it is not merely a feeling. Love is a deep unity, maintained by will, deliberately strengthened and reinforced by the grace which both partners receive from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other. Being “in love” first moved them towards each other to make this promise but this quieter, deeper love enables them to keep that promise.

DECLARATION OF INTENT

A solid marriage is not something that just happens. It takes work, it takes patience, and it takes time. It takes a commitment from both of you… a commitment to do whatever it takes to make your relationship thrive and not just simply survive. 

Matt, will you take Trisha to be your lawfully wedded wife and travel the rest of life’s road with her? Will you love her, laugh with her, comfort her, honor and protect her, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live? (I do.)

Trisha, will you take Matt to be your lawfully wedded Husband and travel the rest of life’s road with him? Will you love him, laugh with him, comfort him, honor and protect him, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live? (I do.)


RING EXCHANGE

Often this is the part where folks talk about wedding bands being a perfect circle, having no beginning and no end. But that’s a load of bunk. Rock is dug up from the earth. Metals are liquified in a furnace at a thousand degrees. The hot metal is forged, cooled, and then painstakingly polished to make something beautiful made from raw elements. Love is like that. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect humans. It is the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.

Words are fleeting, so let these rings serve as a reminder of the feelings and promises you have in your hearts at this very moment. 

Now Matt, repeat after me:

With this ring I am giving you my promise/to always cherish you/honor you and comfort you./ I promise that I will love you/and keep my heart open to you/all the days of my life.

Now Trisha:

With this ring I am giving you my promise/to always cherish you/honor you and comfort you./ I promise that I will love you/and keep my heart open to you/all the days of my life.


DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

Matt and Trisha, no one but you can declare yourselves married. You have begun it here today in speaking your vows before your family and you will do it again in the days and years to come, standing by each other, sharing all that is sweet and bitter in life. Each kind act and each loving word will be the declaration of what you made here today.

Matt, Trisha; you may now seal your marriage with a kiss.

Therefore, it is now my humble and joyful privilege to present to you, for the very first time as husband and wife, Matt and Trisha Comer.